Looking For Couple On Internet

Previously we only read advice like this in the virtual world. But after hearing and seeing the direct, and the case is not just one. we see direct evidence of how a man and woman, who are familiar with the methodology of the true religion is based on an understanding friend, the two of them actually fall on this. We've been taught how to correct the merrymaking is to ta'aruf the shar ' i. Therefore we try lifted this theme.

Generally done by the less faith

Maybe he did not intend to find a mate, but the lack of faith that makes easy to relate to the relationship that is not kosher, but they already know the science. This is a phenomenon that often happens these days, the woman behind the hijab is closed but not closed behind the veil of honor e-mail, FB inbox, and SMS. So is the man with their attribution to the "as-salafi", "al-Atsari" with ornaments and link status smelling syar'i, but his attitude and wara' not indicate so.

Relationships man with the woman who tipped love is the greatest happiness for the human heart, especially the youth, especially for those who have never 'try' altogether. So when could feel the first time as breaking the fast, very enjoyable and happy. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam,

للصائم فرحتان: فرحة عند فطره و فرحة عند لقاء ربه

"People who are fasting have two happiness: happiness when breaking the fast and happiness when he met with his Lord in the future" (HR. Muslim, no.1151)

Those who already understand certainly not free to do so in the real world, either because there is no opportunity or embarrassed if caught. But these two things missing when working in the virtual world. Starting from the subtle way with insults and implicit direction illicit love until the blatant way. When they feel the pleasure of feeling the love-interest-relationship so weak faith can not repress as iftar. So there grew a love that is not allowed law even to the marriage.

Impressed Salih and shalihah in cyberspace

Do not immediately rush to judge a person pious or righteous just because seeing activity in cyberspace. Frequent updating statuses of religion, linking links religion and looks very concerned with propaganda. It is not necessarily and not become a someone benchmark. And what is there in cyberspace is a theory, not practice immediately. It could be someone often writes religious status, link to link shar'ī but even they do not carry it out and break it, let alone have some people who can keep the pious image in cyberspace, stringing words clever, good at keeping themselves and be good at choosing words that can be captivating many people

These benchmarks can we judge a personality dzahir is piety and akhlaq that sometimes we can immediately see the value and in the real world and not merely assess how his theory only in cyberspace.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

اتق الله حيثما كنت وأتبع السيئة الحسنة تمحها وخالق الناس بخلق حسن

"And fear Allah wherever you may be. When do evil, counter with goodness He would eliminate the ugliness and akhlaq with humans with good morals. "(HR. Tirmidhi no. 1987 and Ahmad 5/153. Abu 'Isa At-Tirmidhi said that this hadith is hasan Saheeh)

Shaykh Abdurrahman bin Nasir As-Sa'diy rahimahullahu explained this hadith,

فمن اتقى الله و حقق تقواه, و خالق الناس غلى اختلاف طبقاتهم بالخلق الحسن

: فقد جاز لخير كله, لآنه قام بجق الله و حقوق الغباد,

ولآنه كان من المحسنين في عبادة الله, المحسنين إلى عباد الله

"Whoever fear of Allah, piety and morals to realize the human-conforming with the different levels of them- with good morals, then he obtain the good of the whole, because he fulfill the rights of Allah and His Servant. [Bahjatu Qulubil Abror page 62, the first printing, Darul Kutubil 'of scientific]

No mandate of scientific

There is also a wish to appear pious and knowledgeable in the virtual world with the intention of not sincerely [Praise quite a bit]. In addition to the above ways such as status updates religiously every hour, linking link several times a day, make a note every day [very wasted time in cyberspace]. There are other ways that do not do the mandate of scientific example:

-make note almost every day to copy and paste from the writings of others but did not specify the source so that people thought he wrote

-make note with copy and paste from other writings, then varying the some or add a comment later attributing the writing on her.

And there are many other examples, please read accomplishing scientific trustful and honest In Writing

So no wonder there who claimed to have met someone in cyberspace seem very pious and knowledgeable. However, when met in the real world, it turns out he was far from what the drama in cyberspace. Far from science, morality and piety.

Need husnudzan also

We need husnudzon too, because there are those who do work related to the world of the Internet as IT experts and trade via the Internet. So they really take advantage of this opportunity to preach now that the virtual world is loved by the world community. We should not prejudice them with the thought that self-righteous, self-styled status updates Arabic, self-paced shar'ī and sanctimonious. Allah Ta'ala says,

يا أيها الذين آمنوا اجتنبوا كثيرا من الظن إن بعض الظن إثم

O ye who believe, avoid most of prejudice (suspicions), because some of the prejudices that sin. (Surat al-Hujurat: 12)

We also need to look at the role of the scholars and teachers, they are busier and more priority to science and propaganda in the real world, because we live in the real world. Science and propaganda in cyberspace is a priority then after science and propaganda in the real world.

Deceived by the love of cyberspace

And those who are not strong in the faith, deceived once by illicit relationship that they do, they are already trapped in love. the more complete already, they see it as an incomparable beauty to the point of closing some drawbacks that should be considered the most advanced, namely religion and ahklak.

The beauty can make fall in love ...
And love can make everything wonderful ...

A poet said,

هويتك إذ عينى عليها غشاوة ... فلما انجلت قطعت نفسي ألومها

"My love to you close my eyes

But when in spite of my love, all your bad appeared "

[[Al-Jawabul Kaafi 214, Darul Ma'rifah, the first mold, ash-Syamilah]

This is the one that is feared, for love has been lodged does not matter anymore, but know only in the virtual world, then decided to meet, ala ta'aruf levels and married. to find out how life is his world is difficult, how the original face [despite the exchange of photos, the photo can now be turned 180 degrees to the original], how his future and how their responsibilities, especially to determine the religious and moral are a top priority, although impressed righteous but once again it was only in the virtual world, not necessarily.

Women main victims

Clearly women are victims, because women generally have a weak heart, weak with praise, attention weak, weak with poetic words. Can we see in the news is not a bit How can women who are victims, whether victims of crime, sexual harassment to rape by a friend he knew in the virtual world.

So is the lady prosecutor science of religion, given the importance of religion and morals husband, to the extent there who said, "religion's wife followed her husband, if there are women who multazimah married to a Jewish man, then he will be affected". If the woman fall with love in cyberspace and it is plugged in love and had covered a shortage of men with blind love.

As we get the real story, they both knew in the virtual world, then the man from a distant town to cross two islands came to the city to meet the woman. So the woman who was trapped in love, instantly "klepek-klepek" with little sacrifice of these men and immediately wanted to get married. Whereas the lacquer male, face less, the portion of the body is also less religious knowledge are also not clear, and the future is still unclear as just a high school graduate. [Hopefully they both repent and remain in custody God, Amen]

Do not start something sacred with the wrath of God

Marriage and build a home is something sacred and advice Shari'a. From the wedding started everything and change the life of someone with a big change. Then the human birth of the wedding, people born and born of the subject's life. So let us start with fury and ketidakridhaan of God. Do we start with a relationship that is not kosher. Because it is the basis and foundation.

Let confident with the promise of Allah and be patient with ta'aruf syar'i, improve themselves and improve the quality of science, faith, morality and piety then we'll get a good partner. Allah Ta'ala says,

الخبيثات للخبيثين والخبيثون للخبيثات والطيبات للطيبين والطيبون للطيبات

"The women are cruel to men vile. And vile men for vile women anyway. Women are good for men either. And the man who is good for women is good too. "(QS. An Nur: 26)

Alhamdulillahilladzi bi ni'matihi tatimmush sholihaat, wa sallallaahu 'Alihi ala Muhammad wa' ala alihi wa wa sallam shohbihi.

When Hijab Forbidden On Work And Office

I'm sure you've heard of a case worker is prohibited from using the headscarf in the company where they work. Or you've experienced? Alternatively there are friends or relatives who have experienced? Please share this article, hopefully can help is or ever experienced this.

I will not go on the firm side. My position is clear: IT WRONG. If there happens to be a company that prohibits the use of headscarves to work for him, read this article. I say, remove this prohibition. The hijab is not just a symbol, but it's worship for ALL Muslim. Prohibit veiling is discrimination and violates religious freedom.

OK, that's it. Because I wanted to focus on discussing for anyone who is or ever experiencing this prohibition.

IF NOT HOW addressing hijab AT WORK

Need Courage Standing Above the Truth

It was not easy. If we want to talk what it should be, then it shall attitude is more priority to God's command rather than owner command or company. Of course, the risk is fired by the company. It was better than being fired so the servant of God.

"But ..."

I understand, that when you work, meaning that it requires the results of the work for a variety of needs. I understand that and if you get laid off work, it will lose income from the company.

I emphasize, "the income of the company was"!

This means that there are still opportunities to earn money from other companies or from other sources. Because your sustenance not from the company, but of God. And, God could give sustenance to you in many ways, not necessarily through the company that actually prohibits the practice.

Rest assured that sustenance comes from God, not of man, not of a particular company.

"None of the creatures that live on this earth, but its provision is borne of God ..." (QS. Hud: 6).

If someone believe Quran including this paragraph, should no longer afraid of losing sustenance stop working because of the company. Moreover, the intention to stop the operation for the sake of the commandments of God.

Probably Not Be Easy

We may have heard or read where an employee be successful even after fired for wearing hijab maintain. Plus another wonderful story.

However, I will not promise you that after stopping the work will be easy. Well realistic course. You probably will need to fight off looking for a new job or starting a business. May be experiencing difficult days. That may happen.

But be assured that God will not waste your fight, it will not waste your patience face difficulties. And Allah knows that you experience all this for his ridla expect. God will reward both in this world and in the hereafter.


And we also believe, along with the difficulty there is relief. All you need to do is continue to struggle with sincerity and with patience. Insyaallah rewarded in God is already waiting for you.

Rest assured there will always be the way.

Do not give up, you're walking the path of Allah and Allah will surely help us. This is a test from God.

Various Options After Stopped Working

What to do after stop working?

There are many different options:

Can seek employment elsewhere (for those who are married, of course permission of the husband).
Can start a business pioneer, a lot of start of sewing, baking, online business, Afiiliate sharia, and various other opportunities that can run at home.
Being a writer, for example, earn income from book royalties.
Being freelance workers in accordance with the time and expertise.
Or focus just became a wife and a good mother (for housewives) and pray husband so much success.
Please choose, if developed from five points above will be a lot of options that we can do.

Of course, for women who are married, please discuss with your husband what to do. My advice, if in case the husband's income is sufficient, chose the fifth point that being a wife and a good mother.

When Facing a dilemma situation

"Every community has a test. And the biggest test of my people is a treasure. "(HR. Ahmad, Tirmidhi, and classed as saheeh al-Albani).

Possibly, someone face a dilemma. If he works, he sinned by opening genitalia. Meanwhile, if she stops working, no major problems were encountered.

Is it because of the severity of the risk, they should work even have to take off the veil? The reason of necessity?

If you ask me, it's not quite right because I'm just a motivator is not a cleric moreover scholars. So please contact a trusted scholars to ask legal issues. Please ask the scholars, the answer may be different for each condition each one is different.

Suppose for instance because it's really really forced you keep working without veiling (according to scholars yes, not lust alone). Do not make it transmissivity. This means that efforts must be made as soon as possible so that conditions such ends.

Look for a solution, think, reflect, and seek guidance from Allah so that you can resolve this issue quickly. So that you can still overcome the problem AND you can still run the command of Allah (close the genitals).

Need serious thinking and trying hard to get a solution. Including requiring knowledge how to resolve the problem. Rest assured, a solution was forthcoming.

May I talk about a problem with someone else's husband

Can a husband and wife talked to people, just talk or vent?

Clearly shari'ah we fortify his people from unlawful acts such as adultery,

ولا تقربوا الزنا إنه كان فاحشة وساء سبيلا

"And do not approach adultery; in fact adultery is a heinous act. And an evil way. "(QS. Al-Isra ': 32)

Shaykh As-Sa'di brought in sya'irnya temple,

وسائل الأمور كالمقاصد

واحكم بهذا الحكم للزوائد

Intermediary same law with the law of interest

Hukumilah by law for such other additional

Therefore, intermediaries toward adultery as alone together was forbidden.

From 'Abdullah bin' Amr ibn Rabi'a ie, from his father, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

ألا لا يخلون رجل بامرأة لا تحل له, فإن ثالثهما الشيطان, إلا محرم

"Let not a man alone with a woman who is not lawful for him because actually syaithan was the third between the two of them together unless mahram." (HR. Ahmad no. 15734. Shoaib Shaikh Al Arnauth said this hadeeth saheeh lighairihi)

Among the forms alone together (aka: seclusion) is chatting with the opposite sex, including shaped vent with another woman's husband.

What are the dangers?

There is some danger of a husband talked to people, either directly or through online media such as WhatsApp and Facebook. Here are eight of the comments we collected from our status on FB, today, 7 Rabi 'Awwal 1437 H (19-12-2015). We strain opinion considered attractive.

Suya Macell: Usually tends to occur perselingkungan chaplain. Because men pedestal vent suddenly so god help for these mothers. And ultimately what happens is immoral, Ustadz. In Bondowoso here already a lot happening.

Peni Nur Aisyah: I think it is inappropriate, if I had to confide in family issues I choose to a friend sisters who are wise, or to the competent cleric. Especially if confidante alone in your inbox or WhatsApp, or via SMS it will be very easy to open the way for Shaytaan to make a "stray".

Dad Zahwa: Danger kholwat the chaplain, opened the family disgrace to the wrong people, there will be votes on him that men who dicurhati better than her husband, talbis devil (the cunning of Satan, pen.)

Anik Murlina: It's inappropriate. It is the earliest onset of infidelity that will we as women will be harmed. A wife should be able to save all the problems that occurred in the household, not a fling.

Sumar Hilmikalila: It's early doors adultery, do not deserve a wife chatting vent the same husband. It's called treasonous.

Susiati Naya: How mo deserve husband was the mother with the tu, not mahram. What else would be shared household problem that looks even slander.

Nuha Abu priyadi: It is extremely inappropriate chaplain. Therefore: (1) dismantle the family disgrace, (2) open up gaps demons, (3) the door to sin and immorality. Moreover, do frequent and continuous, very well ... Danger !!

Kharis Nizar: Danger cleric, CURHAT so CURHOT, it said Ustadz Zainal Abidin.

May God keep us from various unlawful acts and keep us from adultery and things that bring in adultery. Wallahu waliyyut taufiq was sadaad.

How To Treat A Barren Wife

There are women who for years have not destined to have offspring. And she missed once in the presence of a baby in the house.

When God is not the baby is present in our midst today, do not worry Allah has prepared its place in heaven. ,

From Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri radi 'anhu, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,

المؤمن إذا اشتهى ​​الولد في الجنة كان حمله ووضعه وسنه في ساعة, كما يشتهي

"A believer that when a wanted child (but do not get it), in heaven he would conceived him, feed him and grew up in an instant, as he wanted to." (HR. Tirmidhi, no. 2563; Ibn Majah, no. 4338. Al- Hafiz Abu Tahir said that this sanad hasan hadeeth).

From the above hadith, many scholars have argued that those who want a child but did not get it in the world, then he will get it in heaven.

While other scholars argue that in heaven there is a jima '(sexual intercourse), but does not produce children or descendants. This is the opinion narrated from Thawus, Mujahid and Ibrahim An-Nakha'i.

Evidence of the above second opinion was narrated from Abu Razin Al-Uqailiy radi 'anhu, from the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam, he said,

الصالحات للصالحين تلذونهن مثل لذاتكم في الدنيا, ويلذذن بكم, غير أن لا توالد

"Women righteous to men righteous in heaven would feel the delicacy of each other as they feel in the world. The women are going to have fun with you guys. But they did not have children. "(HR. Ahmad, 4: 13. Shoaib Al-Arnauth saying that the sanad of this hadith dha'if because musalsal bil mahajahil)

Ibn al-Qayyim as to explain, "Paradise is not a country to produce offspring. Heaven is a country that remain and abide. People who are in heaven are not dying nor produces offspring to replace the dead ones. "(Haadi Al-Dead, 1: 173)

But the way a good compromise of the two propositions appear above contradictions are as claimed by Al-Munawi follows.

Al-Munawi explained in Faidh Al-Qadir (6: 335) that, "The hadith does not contradict the hadith Al-Uqaili with sanad authentic" Verily in Paradise there was no child. "Therefore, for people who do not want it, he will not bear children. However, if somebody wants a child it will be as described in the Hadith. "

Because it is in heaven, someone will get what he wants, including the desire to have children. In verse mentioned,

وفيها ما تشتهيه الأنفس وتلذ الأعين وأنتم فيها خالدون

"And in heaven there is all that is desired by the liver and savory (seen) the eyes and to dwell therein." (QS. Az-Zukhruf: 71)

How Does Sex On Islam Part II

How can I intimate relationship according to the Sunnah of the Prophet? Here's the second sequel in the series.

6- If you want to repeat an intimate relationship, let her ablutions ago

There is a hadith which is mentioned in Sahih Muslim,

عن أبى سعيد الخدرى قال قال رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- «إذا أتى أحدكم أهله ثم أراد أن يعود فليتوضأ». زاد أبو بكر فى حديثه بينهما وضوءا وقال ثم أراد أن يعاود

From Abu Sa'id Al Khudri, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "If any one of you to fuck her and he wanted to repeat it, then let him perform ablution." Abu Bakr in haditsnya added, "Let added ablution in the intimate relationship between the two. "Then added," If he wants to repeat intercourse. "(HR. Muslim, no. 308).

Imam Malik added wording,

فإنه أنشط للعود

"Wudoo it more makes the spirit when it wants to repeat an intimate relationship."

7- If the penis has entered the vagina (the meeting of two pubic), then it is obligatory bath junub though not out semen

From 'Aisha radi' anha, she said,

إن رجلا سأل رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- عن الرجل يجامع أهله ثم يكسل هل عليهما الغسل وعائشة جالسة. فقال رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- «إنى لأفعل ذلك أنا وهذه ثم نغتسل

"A man asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam about a man who sex with his wife but did not get out of semen. Are they obliged to take a bath? While Ayesha when it was sitting on the side, then the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "I myself have had sexual relations with this woman (the question is Aisha, pen.), But not out of sperm, then we went to shower." (HR. Muslim , no. 350)

Similarly, if the shower is still obliged to come out semen although no meeting of two pubic, ie semen out during foreplay or making out as a form of heating. From Abu Sa'id Al-Khudri radi 'anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,

إنما الماء من الماء

"Surely (bath) with water due to discharge of water (semen)." (HR. Muslim, no. 343)

It is fine for the obligatory bath he slept and delaying a bath until the time for Fajr. However it is advisable for him to perform ablutions before going to bed. It is based on the history of Ibn 'Umar follows.

عن ابن عمر أن عمر بن الخطاب سأل رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - أيرقد أحدنا وهو جنب قال نعم إذا توضأ أحدكم فليرقد وهو جنب

From Ibn 'Umar, he said that' Umar bin Al-Khattab once asked the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, "Is any one of us could sleep while he was in a state of impurity?" He replied, "Yes, if one in between you junub, he should perform ablution and then sleep. "(HR. Bukhari, no. 287; Muslim, no. 306).

8- prohibited intercourse with the woman at the time of haidh

Allah Ta'ala says,

فاعتزلوا النساء في المحيض

"Therefore be ye abstain from (sexual intercourse with) the woman at the time of menstruation." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 222).

Imam Nawawi said, "Mahidh in paragraph could mean menstrual blood, some are saying the time period and there is also a saying that where the discharge of menstruation genitals. ... And according to scholars Shafi'ites, mahidh intent is menstrual blood. "(Al-Majmoo ', 2: 343)

In the hadith mentioned,

من أتى حائضا أو امرأة فى دبرها أو كاهنا فقد كفر بما أنزل على محمد -صلى الله عليه وسلم-

"Whoever the fuck women menstruation or intercourse with a woman in the anus, then he has Kufr against what was revealed to Muhammad -shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam." (HR. Tirmidhi no. 135, Ibn Majah no. 639. Shaykh Al Albani says that this hadeeth saheeh). Al-Muhamili in al-Majmoo '(2: 359) mentioned that Imam Ash-Shafi'i rahimahullah said, "Whoever the fuck menstruating women, it has been plunged into a grave sin."

Sexual intercourse is permitted with menstruating women are making out for not doing jima '(intercourse) in pubic. In the hadith mentioned,

اصنعوا كل شىء إلا النكاح

"Do everything (against menstruating women) besides jima '(pubic)." (HR. Muslim, no. 302)

In the history of the Agreed alaih mentioned,

عن عائشة قالت كانت إحدانا إذا كانت حائضا, فأراد رسول الله - صلى الله عليه وسلم - أن يباشرها, أمرها أن تتزر فى فور حيضتها ثم يباشرها. قالت وأيكم يملك إربه كما كان النبى - صلى الله عليه وسلم - يملك إربه

From 'Aisha, he said that among the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam anyone experienced menstruation. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam wanted to flirt with him. Then he ordered her to wear a sarong to cover her menstrual blood memancarnya place, then he remains mencumbunya (above the glove). Aisha said, "Is there any among you who can resist his desire (to berjima ') as the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam him in?" (HR. Bukhari, no. 302; Muslim, no. 293). Imam Nawawi said crosshead of the above hadith, "Chapter fondling menstruating women above scabbard". That is in addition to a discharge other than menstrual blood or genitals.

Imam Nawawi rahimahullah said, "The Muslims agreed to the prohibition of intercourse with menstruating women based on the Qur'an and hadiths are authentic." (Al-Majmoo ', 2: 359)

Ibn Taymiyyah rahimahullah said, "intercourse with puerperal woman is menstruating women as it is forbidden by the consensus of the scholars." (Majmoo 'al-Fataawa, 21: 624)

How are demanded in Islamic intimate relationship? Following the last series please to be studied.

9- Can do coitus interruptus, pull his penis from her vagina before ejaculation

It is still permissible as the proposition from the hadeeth of Jabir bin 'Abdillah, he said,
كنا نعزل والقرآن ينزل
"We were never practicing withdrawal at the time of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and the Qur'an down when it" (HR. Bukhari, no. 5208; Muslim no. 1440).
In another narration,
كنا نعزل على عهد رسول الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- فبلغ ذلك نبى الله -صلى الله عليه وسلم- فلم ينهنا.
"We were practicing withdrawal at the time of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam and up to his ears, but he did not forbid it." (HR. Muslim, no. 1440)
Shaykh Muhammad Salih Al-Munajjid said, "Better is leaving 'azl because it will eliminate or reduce the delicacy of an intimate relationship with his wife. Similarly, it would make the failure to achieve most of the purpose of marriage is to reproduce offspring and children. "(Fatwa al-Islam Sual wa FAQ no. 5560)
In a complete about law 'azl, please see here.

10- Not to be spread secret relationship beds

From Abu Sa'id Al Khudri radi 'anhu, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,
إن من أشر الناس عند الله منزلة يوم القيامة الرجل يفضى إلى امرأته وتفضى إليه ثم ينشر سرها
"Surely including ugliest man his position before Allah on the Day of Resurrection is a man who with his wife then he scattered his bed secrets." (HR. Muslim, no. 1437).
Imam Nawawi in Sharh Saheeh Muslim rahimahullah said, "The above hadith shows illegitimate someone spread about the relationship that happened between her bed with her partner, the details of the relationship, or what happened to her partner of words, deeds or something."
Authors' Aunul Ma'bud said, "Spread the beds relationship between a person and his partner is the greatest betrayal."

How Does Sex On Islam

There are several manners taught by Islam when the couple wanted to channel the desire lovemaking. Here are manners when jima ', having sex or having sex in bed:

1- ikhlas intention to find reward

The lovemaking that is intended to keep away from adultery (cheating), produce offspring, and expect the reward as a form of charity.

From Abu Dhar radi 'anhu, he said, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,

وفى بضع أحدكم صدقة

"In the intimate relationship of husband and wife (of you) that included alms."

The friend responded, "Why should intercourse alone could be worth the reward?"

Apostle sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied,

أيأتى أحدنا شهوته ويكون له فيها أجر قال أرأيتم لو وضعها فى حرام أكان عليه فيها وزر فكذلك إذا وضعها فى الحلال كان له أجر

"Do you know if someone meets syahwatnya on the unlawful, he sinned. Similarly, if he fulfills it in a kosher syahwatnya, he got a reward ". (HR. Muslim, no. 2376)

2- Doing foreplay and fondling advance

This is why the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam advocated to marry a virgin woman as they can to flirting with her before having sex.

When Jabir radi 'anhu married, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam asked him,

«هل تزوجت بكرا أم ثيبا. فقلت تزوجت ثيبا. فقال هلا تزوجت بكرا تلاعبها وتلاعبك

"Did you marry the girl (virgin) or a widow?" "I married the widow," Jabir replied. "Why did not you marry a girl just because you can flirt with him and also otherwise he could make out intimate with you?" (HR. Bukhari, no. 2967; Muslim, no. 715).

3- Reading prayer before intercourse

Prayer is encouraged to read is: Bismillah, allahumma jannibnaasy syaithoona wa maa jannibisy syaithoona rozaqtanaa.

From Ibn 'Abbas radi' anhuma, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

لو أن أحدكم إذا أراد أن يأتى أهله فقال باسم الله, اللهم جنبنا الشيطان, وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا. فإنه إن يقدر بينهما ولد فى ذلك لم يضره شيطان أبدا

"If any one of you (the husband) wanted to have sex with his wife, and then he read the prayer: [Bismillah Allahumma jannibnaasy syaithoona wa maa jannibisy syaithoona rozaqtanaa]," With the (call) the name of Allah, O Allah take away our of (interference ) devil and take away the demons of sustenance which thou has bestowed upon us ", then if God predestined (birth) the child of an intimate relationship, then the devil can not harm the child forever." (HR. Bukhari, no. 6388; Muslim, no . 1434).

4- intercourse with his wife from any direction as long as it is not in the rectum

Allah Ta'ala says,

نساؤكم حرث لكم فأتوا حرثكم أنى شئتم

"Wife-wife is (like) the land where you grow crops, so go to the land where farming-tanammu that how ye will." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 223)

Imam Nawawi rahimahullah said, "The name of the field (a farm) in women is in her vagina which germinated seminal place to get a descent. It is the argument of bolehnya intercourse with his wife at his cock, up from the front, back or reversed wife. "(Sharh Sahih Muslim, 10: 6)

From Jabir bin 'Abdillah radi' anhu, he said,

كانت اليهود تقول إذا جامعها من ورائها جاء الولد أحول

"In the past the Jews said that if sex with his wife from behind, the eyes of a child who will be born cross-eyed." Then there came the word of Allah Ta'ala,

نساؤكم حرث لكم فأتوا حرثكم أنى شئتم

"Wife-wife is (like) the land where you grow crops, so go to the land where farming-tanammu that how ye will." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 223) (HR. Bukhari, no. 4528; Muslim, no. 117)

In another narration,

مقبلة ومدبرة ما كان في الفرج

"It is up to on the front or the back during the pubic." (HR. Ath-Thohawi, 3: 41 in Syarh Ma'an Al-Atsar with a saheeh sanad)

The above hadith shows that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam refute the misconceptions of the Jews who claimed terlarangnya style sex from behind because it can result in children born later squint. That assumption is incorrect because Islam justifies any variation or the way in sex during pubic.

About surah Al-Baqarah verse 223 above, Ibn Kathir stated that setubuhilah your wives in the field that is in place that will be able to produce children. He also said that it is up style from the front or from behind for a hole in one, namely genitals, then it is permissible. (Tafsir Al-Qur'an Al-'Azhim, 2: 154)

5- Not to be completely anal intercourse with his wife, whatever the circumstances

Hadith underlying the prohibition of anal intercourse (anal sex) are the words of the Apostle sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam from the companions of Abu Hurayrah radi' anhu,

ملعون من أتى امرأة فى دبرها

"Really accursed people who sex with his wife in their anus." (HR. Ahmad, 2: 479. Shoaib Shaikh Al-Arnauth said that the hadith is hasan)

Others mentioned in the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah radi 'anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,

من أتى حائضا أو امرأة فى دبرها أو كاهنا فقد كفر بما أنزل على محمد -صلى الله عليه وسلم-

"Whoever the fuck women menstruation or intercourse with a woman in the anus, then he has Kufr against what was revealed to Muhammad -shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam." (HR. Tirmidhi, no. 135; Ibn Majah, no. 639; Abu Daud, no. 3904. Al-Hafiz Abu Tahir said that this hadith is hasan)

Do the benefits of having many children

Any benefits to have more children?

Imam Abu Hamid Al-Ghazali in Ihya 'Ulum Ad-Deen said,

وفي التوصل إلى الولد قربة من أربعة أوجه هي الأصل في الترغيب فيه عند الأمن من غوائل الشهوة حتى لم يحب أحدهم أن يلقى الله عزبا.

الأول موافقة محبة الله بالسعي في تحصيل الولد لإبقاء جنس الإنسان

والثاني طلب محبة رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم في تكثير من مباهاته

والثالث طلب التبرك بدعاء الولد الصالح بعده

والرابع طلب الشفاعة بموت الولد الصغير إذا مات قبله.

Trying to get a descent has been rated as a form of worship seen from four sides:

Running the command of God that humanity still has descendants.

Wish beloved Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam because he would be proud of the number of offspring at the last day.

Expect a blessing of prayer both children Salih afterwards.

Expect the intercession of the children who died as a child before his parents.

First: Have many children means running the command of God.

Allah Ta'ala says about halal intercourse in the evenings of Ramadan,

فالآن باشروهن وابتغوا ما كتب الله لكم

"So now campurilah them and follow what Allah has ordained for you." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 187).

Regarding the interpretation of 'maa kataballahu lakum', what God has ordained for you, the scholars interpret the child. Meaning it can be interpreted that the purpose of intimate relations, including at night in Ramadan is to gain offspring.

Who argue like this is Abu Hurairah, Ibn 'Abbas, Anas, Shuraih, Al-Qadi, Mujahid,' Ikrimah, Sa'eed ibn Jubayr, 'Ata', Ar-Rabi 'bin Anas, As Sudiy, Zaid bin Aslam, Al -Hakam bin'Utbah, Maqatil bin Hayyan, Al-Hasan Al-Basri, Adh-Dhahak, Qatada, and in others. They interpret the verse to reach children (offspring). Mentioned in Tafsir Al-Qur'an Al-'Azhim, 2: 70.

Second: The Messenger proud of the number of followers on the Day of Judgment.

عن معقل بن يسار قال جاء رجل إلى النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فقال إني أصبت امرأة ذات حسب وجمال وإنها لا تلد أفأتزوجها قال لا ثم أتاه الثانية فنهاه ثم أتاه الثالثة فقال تزوجوا الودود الولود فإني مكاثر بكم الأمم

From Ma'qil bin Yasar, he said, he said that there was someone who met the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he said that he really loved a woman who has good bloodlines and flawless, but unfortunately he could not have offspring ,

He asked the Prophet, "What should I marry?"

He replied, "Not allowed."

Then he came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam again the second time, the answer was the same prohibited.

Then he came to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam third time, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam then said, "Marry women who are loving and have many descendants because I'm very proud because for you are with the number of followers." (HR. Abu Dawud, no. 2050; An-Nasa'i, no. 3229. Al-Hafiz Abu Tahir said that this hadith is hasan)

This hadith is a hadith which motivates us to get married and choose a wife who Wadud (compassionate) and walud (have many descendants). Why are ordered to do so? Because the apostle want his followers are many.

Third: Expect a good prayer of a righteous child

From Abu Hurairah radi 'anhu, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,

إذا مات الإنسان انقطع عمله إلا من ثلاثة من صدقة جارية وعلم ينتفع به وولد صالح يدعو له

"If someone dies, then terputuslah deeds except for three cases (ie): perpetual alms, science taken advantage, or a righteous child prayer." (HR. Muslim no. 1631)

Fourth: Expect the intercession of children who died

Anas bin Malik of Allaah 'anhu, he said, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wasallam has said,

ما من الناس مسلم يموت له ثلاثة من الولد لم يبلغوا الحنث إلا أدخله الله الجنة بفضل رحمته إياهم

"It is not a Muslim who died abandoned by his three sons who have baligh except Allah will enter him into Paradise because of the virtue of mercy to them". (HR. Bukhari, no. 1381)

Of 'Utbah ibn' Abdin As-Sulami, he heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,

ما من مسلم يموت له ثلاثة من الولد لم يبلغوا الحنث إلا تلقوه من أبواب الجنة الثمانية من أيها شاء دخل

"It is not a Muslim was left to die by her three children are not yet of legal age, but it will be incorporated into the door of heaven is wherever he wants." (HR. Ibn Majah, no. 1604. Al-Hafiz Abu Tahir said that this hadeeth saheeh sanad )

May be useful. May we bestowed many offspring and are permitted to educate them well.

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@ Darush Sholihin, Bake, 19 Jumadats Tsaniyyah 1437 H

By Al-Faqir Ila Maghfirati Rabbihi: Muhammad Abduh Tuasikal

Oral Sex On Islam

For most couples, oral sex (oral sex) is usually done as part of the heating or foreplay. Men much to like this activity because oral sex can burn their fantasies in reaching satisfaction. Men typically feel a higher pleasure in receiving and giving oral sex.

But how Islam assess this kind of sex act?

Law regarding oral sex (if the question is pubic couple kissing during sex) is disputed by scholars. Cleric Hambali allow the pubic to kiss his wife before jima ', but dimakruhkan if done after that. It is mentioned in the book Kasyful Qona ', one of the Hanbali school of fiqh books. Problematic, if that smell is already contained pubic unclean like pee and madzi.

Shaikh 'Abdullah bin' Abdirrahman Al Jibreen was asked, "Can a woman kissing the genitals of her husband, and vice versa?"

Rahimahullah he replied, "It is permissible, however makruh. Because it came from couples should have fun with one another, enjoying the whole body of his partner unless there is proof that prohibits. Between husband and wife may touch one another genitals with his hands and looked at him. However, no such pubic kiss favored by the soul because there are still other ways that are fun. "(Fataawa Shaykh Ibn Jibreen, 100: 13, Ash Syamilah)

Shaykh Musa Hasan Mayan (member Markaz Da'wa and Islamic Guidance in the city of Medina KSA, disciples of Shaykh Muhammad bin Sholeh Al 'Uthaymeen and Shaykh Ibn Baaz) asked, "What is the law of pubic couples kissing one another?"

Hafizhohullah he replied, "Not why do it that way. A man can just have fun with his wife in various ways, he may enjoy his whole body as long as no proof that prohibits. But he should not be in anal sex with his wife and should not be having sex with his wife in the menstrual period. While kissing the genitals partner, no problem. It is in addition to the permissible because there is no proof that forbids, the Shari'ah was silence. So that sort of oral sex was returned to the original rule are allowed. Which declared illegitimate must bring proposition, but actually there is no proof that prohibit acts of this kind. Truth is on the side of God.

Most scholars earlier and later allow the husband to suck the breast of his wife even though he drank his milk. On this not haram-more powerful. Because that can make a mahram (forbidden for marriage) is a dairy on the baby until he was two years old. If the wife is allowed to suck the breast, then of course be smelt pubic fellow partner.

The later scholars may Allah give taufik on them- which prohibit these acts are justified because pubic places like pee unclean discharge. Then of course they should not be kissed. Such reasoning is sufficiently refuted that question may kiss the pubic is when a state of purity, not when it has been out unclean. Because if there is unclean, surely shall be cleaned (istinjaa ') and washable. If it had been washed and had her ablutions, of the situation of God received as part of the body is sacred.

Our conclusion, pubic kissing couple at the time of the sacred (net), is permitted. Whereas if you have been out unclean, then certainly no one else that would enable scholars because such a thing has come out of the normal human nature. "(Fatwa: Islamway)

Our advice, how oral sex should be avoided especially considering other scholars strictly prohibit this action because it includes tasyabbuh (imitate) sexual style western or non-Muslims. In addition there is a danger of this kind of behavior from the health side. Said a sex consultant, Dr. Ferryal Loetan, ASC & T, MMR, SpRM, Kes, "In the mouth there is a lot of saliva, which can transmit the disease. Because in human saliva, there are some germs and bacteria. Similarly, the different kinds of fungus, which is commonly attached to the human body. All three can lead to disease when we perform oral sex. "(Source: kompas.com). In addition, the survey results showed that 50% of men who perform oral sex mouth cancer. Disease suffered by oral sex offender might be the herpes in the mouth or genitals, chlamydia and gonorrhea attacks the throat, HIV, HPV, syphilis, and Hepatitis A. Terrible! (Source: oktyana.com). If oral sex carries the impact of these dangers, then it is appropriate shunned because remember the Prophet's sayings sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam,

لا ضرر ولا ضرار

"There should not start giving bad effects (mudhorot) on others, as well as him." (HR. Ibn Majah no. 2340, Ad Daruquthni 3: 77, Al Baihaqi 6: 69, Al Hakim 2: 66. Said Shaykh Al Albani this hadeeth saheeh).

69 Sex Position On Islam

Sexual relations between husband and wife is not forbidden to learn on Islam. However, nor exempt such things like an animal associated with each other.

Sex is good and right, which does not violate the law in addition to a peak of marital harmony and reinforcing feelings of love and affection between the two then also included a worship beside Allah, as words of the Prophet,

"..and Sexual intercourse with the wife also alms. They asked, 'O Messenger of Allah, what if we channel the passion between biological (intercourse) also get a reward?' He replied, 'After all, if he was channeling the illicit sin ?, so too when he channeled on the lawful, then he also will get the reward. "(HR. Muslim)

Islam views sex as moderate as characteristic of Islam itself. He could not be removed just so that humans can do freely and also not tightened such that it becomes a tedious job.

Questions about Jima 'by way of oral sex has always been excellent for this. Whether or not taboo. Did you know that in Islam before sex, we are encouraged to do foreplay (mula'abah) or foreplay?

It is recommended that sexual relations that do not resemble sexual intercourse carried by animals. Without heating. So expect no party is hurt. And it is expected the two sides to be able to enjoy it. One form of foreplay in the knowledge that modern sexuality had oral sex, or kissing farj (pubic) a couple good wife to her husband, or vice versa. And more 'extreme' again is by oral sex with a 69 position.

So how do we address it?

The scholars differed in addressing these problems (oral sex). There are allowed, but there are makruh and inclined to forbid it.

Allowed by terms

Permissible because basically everything is allowed (permissible) unless there is the argument against it. And indeed it can not be judged as an act that is unlawful, in the absence of explicit arguments that forbid it.

As with sexual intercourse (intercourse) until orgasm is permissible because it is the peak of pleasure, then it is permissible pleasures also obtained (although not reach orgasm) is flattery cooed, hugging, kissing to oral makes enjoying each other husband and wife.

Allah in the Qur'an says:

"Wives is (like) the land where you grow crops, then go to your land where farming-tanammu that how ye will. and serve (good deeds) for yourselves, and fear Allah, and know that ye are to meet Him. and give good tidings those who believe. "(QS. Al Baqoroh: 223)

However, if oral sex turned out to have a proven impact danger for the couple, as examples of oral sex that resulted in the pairs ill or stricken danger (perhaps because it is dirty because of their unclean or any liquid that smells out of farj) then it will enter the category prohibitions and should not be do.

2. Makruh and leaning on a ban.

Argue about the ban on oral sex and included in that category is the position of 69 (sorry, the position where the pair facing each other but in opposite directions of the head) because it violates the nature and human nature as a servant by reasonable minds a higher degree than animals. Because humans are given orally to read the Quran and speak a good word, it is not appropriate when used to kiss 'something' that can issue unclean (urination, menstruation, madzi etc.)

Of course we will never find a pair of the animals that do it, but it turns out humans are many who even likes and becoming a popular way among people today.

This may occur due to the influence of western society life. Western society is a liberal society (completely free) included in sexual affairs. The end goal is simply the satisfaction they are looking for, in this case an orgasm. If warming in Islam is to be ready to enter farj wife farj husband, then the West does not require this path. If the rectum included women / men or mouth women / men can be achieved satisfaction, then it would be done. That is why the position of 69 the choice of western society, especially gays and lesbians.

If in the course of everyday life we ​​are forbidden to be tasyabuh (bandwagon), then especially in matters of sexual intercourse in which there Islam upholds human nature by reasonable minds, of course forbidden anyway to bertasyabuh with them. Wallahua'lam

Conclusion:

How to oral sex and also including position 69 is essentially allowed to be. However, although it is permissible, but more and more good afdhol abandoned.

Basically, a husband and wife should have fun with each other to enjoy the whole body of one another unless there is the argument against it. But such actions are not preferred (makruh) because there is no other way better and fun.

On the other hand if oral sex carries the impact of hazards for the couple, then it should be withdrawn because remember the Apostle sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam once said:

لا ضرر ولا ضرار

"There should not start giving bad effects (mudhorot) on others, as well as him." (HR. Ibn Majah no. 2340, Ad Daruquthni 3: 77, Al Baihaqi 6: 69, Al Hakim 2: 66. Said Shaykh Al Albani this hadith is authentic).

By: Abu Syauqie Al Mujaddid (Caregiver Solutions Islam and Islamization)

Articles: www.solusiislam.com

Translated by writer 

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3 Tips To Sakinah Household

Many people thought that the wedding was beautiful. When in fact? Truthly its very beautiful. Not a few are sorry, why not from the first marriage. There are three types of conflict management in the household, namely the prevention of conflict, when facing conflicts already underway, and what to do after the conflict has subsided. At the first opportunity, God willing us parse about how to minimize conflict within households kia.

Ready with things we don't expect

Basically we are always ready to get what we want. Easy for us when that happens fits our expectations. However, after all, everyone is different. Not everything should be the same "wavelength" with us. 

So we have to do is prepare themselves to potential conflicts due to this difference is not merusak.Dalam households, it could be a couple we teryata not as ideal as we dream. Then we must be prepared to see that she was not tidy, not as pretty as imagined or not as fast as we expected., For example. We must be tolerant at all if it turns out what we wanted, nothing on him. Conversely, if the outstanding we hate. Turns out the wife or husband of the attitude we have.

Increase the message "I"

Follow-up and our readiness to face the differences, is increase word "me. Because, generally the more others know we are, the more ready he is to face us. For example as we used to say the wife snore when sleeping. Then the husband to be ready for this, we can say "Darling, people say, if I was sleeping like snoring, Mas .... so get ready for it. Because, in fact, my own baseball intention snoring." And as a husband, for example, we expressed our desire: "I love waking up when the ninth hour. Please, wake me. I like regret if not Tahajjud. And when I'm Tahajjud, I do not want any distracting sounds." 

Thus, it should not happen ripples problem if each other does not understand the values ​​used by his or her spouse. For very many people make mistakes as a result he does not know our values. Whose impact would have appeared offense-offense. So here we need to learn to tell. That tells us what we want. This is the essence of the message I am.

Thus this will make the chances of conflict are not enlarged. Because we have been conditioned so that people understand us. Really do not be ashamed to express hopes or our objections. Because even with such openness is our spouse could more easily accept ourselves. Included in the presence of others.

Once upon a time, there was a family. Too often quarrel. Finally, when the wife of a talk "Sir, excuse me, our family is hard temper. So for us that anger into a very unusual thing." Then her husband responded "While Papa was born from a family of quiet, and rarely there is a battle ..." 

Obviously it's going to make things better fade than continuously struggling in squabbles that should not happen.

So we must dare to gather inputs about our spouses. For example, it turns out he had body odor. Then we can suggest to the herbal medicine, once informed that the content of our resistance against odors low. So when we suddenly looked away from him, our wives were not offended. Because the value is equated governance.

Of course, with mutual openness such problems would be more easily rarefied than each is shut down.

Closure, will eventually create potential problems to be great. We become fabricate and fro, to imagine things that do not have no application to our lives godly couple. Indignation, anger, hate, and so on. However, if just discussed, so the problem can be very easily resolved. And the potential for conflict would be minimal.

About the rules

We must have rules agreed. Because if you do not know the rules, how can people according to? How can we tune? So we have to make the rules as well ... Socialize!

For example our wives rarely turn off the faucet after used. It could be us cranky. On the other hand, the wife may not even feel guilty at all. Because he came from the village. And in the village .. anyway showers never closed.

Similarly, in children. We shall disseminate these rules. Do not be rigid. Make only what could be carried out by all. The more people know the rules, then the chances of getting a minimum err.

Source: "Rumah tangga menyenangkan" (Minimizing Potential Conflicts)", karya K.H. Abdullah Gymnastiar