Many people thought that the wedding was beautiful. When in fact? Truthly its very beautiful. Not a few are sorry, why not from the first marriage. There are three types of conflict management in the household, namely the prevention of conflict, when facing conflicts already underway, and what to do after the conflict has subsided. At the first opportunity, God willing us parse about how to minimize conflict within households kia.Ready with things we don't expect
Basically we are always ready to get what we want. Easy for us when that happens fits our expectations. However, after all, everyone is different. Not everything should be the same "wavelength" with us.
So we have to do is prepare themselves to potential conflicts due to this difference is not merusak.Dalam households, it could be a couple we teryata not as ideal as we dream. Then we must be prepared to see that she was not tidy, not as pretty as imagined or not as fast as we expected., For example. We must be tolerant at all if it turns out what we wanted, nothing on him. Conversely, if the outstanding we hate. Turns out the wife or husband of the attitude we have.
Increase the message "I"
Follow-up and our readiness to face the differences, is increase word "me. Because, generally the more others know we are, the more ready he is to face us. For example as we used to say the wife snore when sleeping. Then the husband to be ready for this, we can say "Darling, people say, if I was sleeping like snoring, Mas .... so get ready for it. Because, in fact, my own baseball intention snoring." And as a husband, for example, we expressed our desire: "I love waking up when the ninth hour. Please, wake me. I like regret if not Tahajjud. And when I'm Tahajjud, I do not want any distracting sounds."
Thus, it should not happen ripples problem if each other does not understand the values used by his or her spouse. For very many people make mistakes as a result he does not know our values. Whose impact would have appeared offense-offense. So here we need to learn to tell. That tells us what we want. This is the essence of the message I am.
Thus this will make the chances of conflict are not enlarged. Because we have been conditioned so that people understand us. Really do not be ashamed to express hopes or our objections. Because even with such openness is our spouse could more easily accept ourselves. Included in the presence of others.
Once upon a time, there was a family. Too often quarrel. Finally, when the wife of a talk "Sir, excuse me, our family is hard temper. So for us that anger into a very unusual thing." Then her husband responded "While Papa was born from a family of quiet, and rarely there is a battle ..."
Obviously it's going to make things better fade than continuously struggling in squabbles that should not happen.
So we must dare to gather inputs about our spouses. For example, it turns out he had body odor. Then we can suggest to the herbal medicine, once informed that the content of our resistance against odors low. So when we suddenly looked away from him, our wives were not offended. Because the value is equated governance.
Of course, with mutual openness such problems would be more easily rarefied than each is shut down.
Closure, will eventually create potential problems to be great. We become fabricate and fro, to imagine things that do not have no application to our lives godly couple. Indignation, anger, hate, and so on. However, if just discussed, so the problem can be very easily resolved. And the potential for conflict would be minimal.
About the rules
We must have rules agreed. Because if you do not know the rules, how can people according to? How can we tune? So we have to make the rules as well ... Socialize!
For example our wives rarely turn off the faucet after used. It could be us cranky. On the other hand, the wife may not even feel guilty at all. Because he came from the village. And in the village .. anyway showers never closed.
Similarly, in children. We shall disseminate these rules. Do not be rigid. Make only what could be carried out by all. The more people know the rules, then the chances of getting a minimum err.
Source: "Rumah tangga menyenangkan" (Minimizing Potential Conflicts)", karya K.H. Abdullah Gymnastiar