Previously we only read advice like this in the virtual world. But after hearing and seeing the direct, and the case is not just one. we see direct evidence of how a man and woman, who are familiar with the methodology of the true religion is based on an understanding friend, the two of them actually fall on this. We've been taught how to correct the merrymaking is to ta'aruf the shar ' i. Therefore we try lifted this theme.
Generally done by the less faith
Maybe he did not intend to find a mate, but the lack of faith that makes easy to relate to the relationship that is not kosher, but they already know the science. This is a phenomenon that often happens these days, the woman behind the hijab is closed but not closed behind the veil of honor e-mail, FB inbox, and SMS. So is the man with their attribution to the "as-salafi", "al-Atsari" with ornaments and link status smelling syar'i, but his attitude and wara' not indicate so.
Relationships man with the woman who tipped love is the greatest happiness for the human heart, especially the youth, especially for those who have never 'try' altogether. So when could feel the first time as breaking the fast, very enjoyable and happy. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam,
للصائم فرحتان: فرحة عند فطره و فرحة عند لقاء ربه
"People who are fasting have two happiness: happiness when breaking the fast and happiness when he met with his Lord in the future" (HR. Muslim, no.1151)
Those who already understand certainly not free to do so in the real world, either because there is no opportunity or embarrassed if caught. But these two things missing when working in the virtual world. Starting from the subtle way with insults and implicit direction illicit love until the blatant way. When they feel the pleasure of feeling the love-interest-relationship so weak faith can not repress as iftar. So there grew a love that is not allowed law even to the marriage.
Impressed Salih and shalihah in cyberspace
Do not immediately rush to judge a person pious or righteous just because seeing activity in cyberspace. Frequent updating statuses of religion, linking links religion and looks very concerned with propaganda. It is not necessarily and not become a someone benchmark. And what is there in cyberspace is a theory, not practice immediately. It could be someone often writes religious status, link to link shar'ī but even they do not carry it out and break it, let alone have some people who can keep the pious image in cyberspace, stringing words clever, good at keeping themselves and be good at choosing words that can be captivating many people
These benchmarks can we judge a personality dzahir is piety and akhlaq that sometimes we can immediately see the value and in the real world and not merely assess how his theory only in cyberspace.
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,
اتق الله حيثما كنت وأتبع السيئة الحسنة تمحها وخالق الناس بخلق حسن
"And fear Allah wherever you may be. When do evil, counter with goodness He would eliminate the ugliness and akhlaq with humans with good morals. "(HR. Tirmidhi no. 1987 and Ahmad 5/153. Abu 'Isa At-Tirmidhi said that this hadith is hasan Saheeh)
Shaykh Abdurrahman bin Nasir As-Sa'diy rahimahullahu explained this hadith,
فمن اتقى الله و حقق تقواه, و خالق الناس غلى اختلاف طبقاتهم بالخلق الحسن
: فقد جاز لخير كله, لآنه قام بجق الله و حقوق الغباد,
ولآنه كان من المحسنين في عبادة الله, المحسنين إلى عباد الله
"Whoever fear of Allah, piety and morals to realize the human-conforming with the different levels of them- with good morals, then he obtain the good of the whole, because he fulfill the rights of Allah and His Servant. [Bahjatu Qulubil Abror page 62, the first printing, Darul Kutubil 'of scientific]
No mandate of scientific
There is also a wish to appear pious and knowledgeable in the virtual world with the intention of not sincerely [Praise quite a bit]. In addition to the above ways such as status updates religiously every hour, linking link several times a day, make a note every day [very wasted time in cyberspace]. There are other ways that do not do the mandate of scientific example:
-make note almost every day to copy and paste from the writings of others but did not specify the source so that people thought he wrote
-make note with copy and paste from other writings, then varying the some or add a comment later attributing the writing on her.
And there are many other examples, please read accomplishing scientific trustful and honest In Writing
So no wonder there who claimed to have met someone in cyberspace seem very pious and knowledgeable. However, when met in the real world, it turns out he was far from what the drama in cyberspace. Far from science, morality and piety.
Need husnudzan also
We need husnudzon too, because there are those who do work related to the world of the Internet as IT experts and trade via the Internet. So they really take advantage of this opportunity to preach now that the virtual world is loved by the world community. We should not prejudice them with the thought that self-righteous, self-styled status updates Arabic, self-paced shar'ī and sanctimonious. Allah Ta'ala says,
يا أيها الذين آمنوا اجتنبوا كثيرا من الظن إن بعض الظن إثم
O ye who believe, avoid most of prejudice (suspicions), because some of the prejudices that sin. (Surat al-Hujurat: 12)
We also need to look at the role of the scholars and teachers, they are busier and more priority to science and propaganda in the real world, because we live in the real world. Science and propaganda in cyberspace is a priority then after science and propaganda in the real world.
Deceived by the love of cyberspace
And those who are not strong in the faith, deceived once by illicit relationship that they do, they are already trapped in love. the more complete already, they see it as an incomparable beauty to the point of closing some drawbacks that should be considered the most advanced, namely religion and ahklak.
The beauty can make fall in love ...
And love can make everything wonderful ...
A poet said,
هويتك إذ عينى عليها غشاوة ... فلما انجلت قطعت نفسي ألومها
"My love to you close my eyes
But when in spite of my love, all your bad appeared "
[[Al-Jawabul Kaafi 214, Darul Ma'rifah, the first mold, ash-Syamilah]
This is the one that is feared, for love has been lodged does not matter anymore, but know only in the virtual world, then decided to meet, ala ta'aruf levels and married. to find out how life is his world is difficult, how the original face [despite the exchange of photos, the photo can now be turned 180 degrees to the original], how his future and how their responsibilities, especially to determine the religious and moral are a top priority, although impressed righteous but once again it was only in the virtual world, not necessarily.
Women main victims
Clearly women are victims, because women generally have a weak heart, weak with praise, attention weak, weak with poetic words. Can we see in the news is not a bit How can women who are victims, whether victims of crime, sexual harassment to rape by a friend he knew in the virtual world.
So is the lady prosecutor science of religion, given the importance of religion and morals husband, to the extent there who said, "religion's wife followed her husband, if there are women who multazimah married to a Jewish man, then he will be affected". If the woman fall with love in cyberspace and it is plugged in love and had covered a shortage of men with blind love.
As we get the real story, they both knew in the virtual world, then the man from a distant town to cross two islands came to the city to meet the woman. So the woman who was trapped in love, instantly "klepek-klepek" with little sacrifice of these men and immediately wanted to get married. Whereas the lacquer male, face less, the portion of the body is also less religious knowledge are also not clear, and the future is still unclear as just a high school graduate. [Hopefully they both repent and remain in custody God, Amen]
Do not start something sacred with the wrath of God
Marriage and build a home is something sacred and advice Shari'a. From the wedding started everything and change the life of someone with a big change. Then the human birth of the wedding, people born and born of the subject's life. So let us start with fury and ketidakridhaan of God. Do we start with a relationship that is not kosher. Because it is the basis and foundation.
Let confident with the promise of Allah and be patient with ta'aruf syar'i, improve themselves and improve the quality of science, faith, morality and piety then we'll get a good partner. Allah Ta'ala says,
الخبيثات للخبيثين والخبيثون للخبيثات والطيبات للطيبين والطيبون للطيبات
"The women are cruel to men vile. And vile men for vile women anyway. Women are good for men either. And the man who is good for women is good too. "(QS. An Nur: 26)
Alhamdulillahilladzi bi ni'matihi tatimmush sholihaat, wa sallallaahu 'Alihi ala Muhammad wa' ala alihi wa wa sallam shohbihi.