There are several manners taught by Islam when the couple wanted to channel the desire lovemaking. Here are manners when jima ', having sex or having sex in bed:
1- ikhlas intention to find reward
The lovemaking that is intended to keep away from adultery (cheating), produce offspring, and expect the reward as a form of charity.
From Abu Dhar radi 'anhu, he said, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,
وفى بضع أحدكم صدقة
"In the intimate relationship of husband and wife (of you) that included alms."
The friend responded, "Why should intercourse alone could be worth the reward?"
Apostle sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied,
أيأتى أحدنا شهوته ويكون له فيها أجر قال أرأيتم لو وضعها فى حرام أكان عليه فيها وزر فكذلك إذا وضعها فى الحلال كان له أجر
"Do you know if someone meets syahwatnya on the unlawful, he sinned. Similarly, if he fulfills it in a kosher syahwatnya, he got a reward ". (HR. Muslim, no. 2376)
2- Doing foreplay and fondling advance
This is why the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam advocated to marry a virgin woman as they can to flirting with her before having sex.
When Jabir radi 'anhu married, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam asked him,
«هل تزوجت بكرا أم ثيبا. فقلت تزوجت ثيبا. فقال هلا تزوجت بكرا تلاعبها وتلاعبك
"Did you marry the girl (virgin) or a widow?" "I married the widow," Jabir replied. "Why did not you marry a girl just because you can flirt with him and also otherwise he could make out intimate with you?" (HR. Bukhari, no. 2967; Muslim, no. 715).
3- Reading prayer before intercourse
Prayer is encouraged to read is: Bismillah, allahumma jannibnaasy syaithoona wa maa jannibisy syaithoona rozaqtanaa.
From Ibn 'Abbas radi' anhuma, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,
لو أن أحدكم إذا أراد أن يأتى أهله فقال باسم الله, اللهم جنبنا الشيطان, وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا. فإنه إن يقدر بينهما ولد فى ذلك لم يضره شيطان أبدا
"If any one of you (the husband) wanted to have sex with his wife, and then he read the prayer: [Bismillah Allahumma jannibnaasy syaithoona wa maa jannibisy syaithoona rozaqtanaa]," With the (call) the name of Allah, O Allah take away our of (interference ) devil and take away the demons of sustenance which thou has bestowed upon us ", then if God predestined (birth) the child of an intimate relationship, then the devil can not harm the child forever." (HR. Bukhari, no. 6388; Muslim, no . 1434).
4- intercourse with his wife from any direction as long as it is not in the rectum
Allah Ta'ala says,
نساؤكم حرث لكم فأتوا حرثكم أنى شئتم
"Wife-wife is (like) the land where you grow crops, so go to the land where farming-tanammu that how ye will." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 223)
Imam Nawawi rahimahullah said, "The name of the field (a farm) in women is in her vagina which germinated seminal place to get a descent. It is the argument of bolehnya intercourse with his wife at his cock, up from the front, back or reversed wife. "(Sharh Sahih Muslim, 10: 6)
From Jabir bin 'Abdillah radi' anhu, he said,
كانت اليهود تقول إذا جامعها من ورائها جاء الولد أحول
"In the past the Jews said that if sex with his wife from behind, the eyes of a child who will be born cross-eyed." Then there came the word of Allah Ta'ala,
نساؤكم حرث لكم فأتوا حرثكم أنى شئتم
"Wife-wife is (like) the land where you grow crops, so go to the land where farming-tanammu that how ye will." (QS. Al-Baqarah: 223) (HR. Bukhari, no. 4528; Muslim, no. 117)
In another narration,
مقبلة ومدبرة ما كان في الفرج
"It is up to on the front or the back during the pubic." (HR. Ath-Thohawi, 3: 41 in Syarh Ma'an Al-Atsar with a saheeh sanad)
The above hadith shows that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam refute the misconceptions of the Jews who claimed terlarangnya style sex from behind because it can result in children born later squint. That assumption is incorrect because Islam justifies any variation or the way in sex during pubic.
About surah Al-Baqarah verse 223 above, Ibn Kathir stated that setubuhilah your wives in the field that is in place that will be able to produce children. He also said that it is up style from the front or from behind for a hole in one, namely genitals, then it is permissible. (Tafsir Al-Qur'an Al-'Azhim, 2: 154)
5- Not to be completely anal intercourse with his wife, whatever the circumstances
Hadith underlying the prohibition of anal intercourse (anal sex) are the words of the Apostle sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam from the companions of Abu Hurayrah radi' anhu,
ملعون من أتى امرأة فى دبرها
"Really accursed people who sex with his wife in their anus." (HR. Ahmad, 2: 479. Shoaib Shaikh Al-Arnauth said that the hadith is hasan)
Others mentioned in the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah radi 'anhu, the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said,
من أتى حائضا أو امرأة فى دبرها أو كاهنا فقد كفر بما أنزل على محمد -صلى الله عليه وسلم-
"Whoever the fuck women menstruation or intercourse with a woman in the anus, then he has Kufr against what was revealed to Muhammad -shallallahu 'alaihi wa sallam." (HR. Tirmidhi, no. 135; Ibn Majah, no. 639; Abu Daud, no. 3904. Al-Hafiz Abu Tahir said that this hadith is hasan)